Tiptoeing the extremes: How private we are really

By | November 8, 2013 at 11:06 am | No comments | Featured, Opinion | Tags: , , , ,

Discussions in the public opinion in Turkey are heated up again after remarks of Prime Minister Erdogan on students living in coed housing. He claimed that ‘his government’s conservative democrat views cannot tolerate coed housing of students and actions will be taken to prevent such affairs.’

After heavy debate in the media on what he really meant, customary in Turkish press which is mainly consist of oped writers who are mouthpiece of the government, social media pundits decided that these words are invasion of privacy and could not be tolerated in a modern society.

That is true. But are we truthfully members of a modern society? Are we sincere in criticizing the PM while in our lives we respect no one’s privacy?

The same media we criticize every day is full of stories of raped women, child marriages, parents killing their children. Mobbing and beating incidents are not even making the news any more; they are taken for granted as everyday facts. Turkey leads Europe and fifth in the world in child marriages.

Now I hear you think “these represent only a fraction of the society at large. We(I) are not like that; we live civilized lives.”

Do you? Really?

Society in Turkey, including most of its minorities and ethnicities, is compromised of two layers: the reality and the window dressing. It’s the foremost characteristics of the ‘Turkish revolution’ of the 1920’s to aim to change the visuals without paying any attention to the depth of human desire, habits and traditions rooted in the people. The end result was a cumulation of hat wearer (or modern looking women) objects carrying on their subordinate behavior towards the state. The bodies might have been, but the minds never liberated.

In a society where there are no personal boundaries it is rather difficult to draw lines around concepts.

Think about it, do you have any friends in Turkey that you know nothing about their political views?

Traditional modi operandi define the way we are brought up, our relationship with our parents, our business and personal relations as well. All these amount to a heavy burden of lopsided state of mind where control and being controlled define our day-to-day intercourse. Sometimes this load overwhelms our perceptions and we succumb to a catatonic state where we hide and replenish to be soon bombarded by the wishes of an unseen authority that lives inside and orders us what to do next.

Man is a social animal. Only in rare and desperate situations he might be able to survive in solitude. And with his innate desire to survive and self-protection he tiptoes the extremities day in and day out in a society divided by both individual and political strife.

Some prefer blondes, some aspire to be sociopaths. But are we all cut for the latter? Or do we simply acknowledge the fact that personal revolutions are the hardest?

Individualism necessitates conceptualism. And unfortunately we are not aware that concepts have global definitions. There is one definition of democracy, there are not several states of freedom or solitude. Concepts mean something only if these definitions are shared by the majority of a society.

In our plight for living, as long as we do not share principle values collectively, we won’t amount to nothing more than objects. Objects of a higher authority who decides what is best for us in every step we take. And I’m not only talking about the state as the ultimate decision maker. I’m talking about your parents, your boy(girl)friends, your husbands(wives), your friends, your colleagues…

I’m talking about you.

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Stratos Moraitis Stratos Moraitis

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